a lil' bit of me

Wednesday, February 28, 2007

hubby came home with flowers. No reason, other than he saw them and thought of me, (and Liv, as they were for both his girls).

Being married, is so completely wonderful, and everything I had ever hoped for and thought it could be.

However, it can be the most frustrating, challenging thing I have ever done too.

Marriage isn't easy. Everyone knows that. The things you can argue about?
child rearing/finances/household duties/employment/in laws/time management. The list goes on.

I think it can be so easy to fight with your spouse. Easier than not. Example, keeping my mouth shut when I want to throw in a snide or demeaning remark. I alot of the time, say something, and think about it after it comes out. Words can be so damaging. So detrimental. But they can be so encouraging at the same time.

Something I heard on the radio the other day, Dr.Laura said, here's a piece of advice. Not one you hear too often: "keep your mouth shut".
Just keep it closed. Feel like throwing out an insult or jab? A sarcastic remark? Just keep your mouth shut. Just do it.

This was good advice for me. I am totally a one-liner. When I am upset, my reaction is my sharp tongue. If my hubby says something that irks me to no end, i am trying to just say nothing. (as I type this, he is reading over my shoulder and asked me, "have you ever tried honey?") haha.
I have. (one time...)

So point to this blog?

Be the one to encourage. Up sell your spouse. Be your hubby's biggest supporter. Biggest fan. Do the best you can to be the BEST wife you can.

wow, not a typical blog for me.

Posted by Lee at 10:43 PM

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At February 28, 2007 11:41 PM, Anonymous said........

Your marriage is one to be proud of!

Love T

At March 01, 2007 7:50 AM, Family Of Five said........

How wonderful! So much easier said than done!! I am the Queen of one liners!! However... I will try.

At March 01, 2007 8:08 AM, heidi said........

hmmm..problem here, my hubby is the one with the one-liners. i need something to entice him to read your blog. how about posting a picture of a nude model? ;)

At March 01, 2007 11:34 AM, Jenn said........

I love these thoughts Lee, especially the last paragraph. I have learned over time that words come first (the positive ones) and our emotions catch up later, so even if we don't feel like being positive just put it out there and know that your efforts will be rewarded. You know what I love most about you two? You guys love to talk to each other. I know of many marriages that don't seem to have that bond, it's sad. Staying close and connected is vital for the long run.

ps. love that you had a point :)

At March 01, 2007 12:53 PM, Summer said........

I love your roses. THey are so beautiful. That must make you girls feel really special. Wonderful!!

At March 01, 2007 1:00 PM, Anonymous said........

Such a nice blog, definitely something to keep in mind.

At March 01, 2007 7:33 PM, jewels said........

so true lee - i too am the one-liner queen - i mean come on - he makes it so easy!
words are definitely my weapon of choice - it's not like i can beat him up...
but you are right - marriage is wonderful and perhaps i need to work on zipping my trap (hmmm - is that possible for me?)

At March 01, 2007 7:40 PM, Lovella ♥ said........

Oh Lee that is so awesome. We always say . . .don't ever allow anyone to compliment your spouse more than you do. One liners have been my problem, but more so with my firends. I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. Oh goodness, the work is endless, is it not?

At March 02, 2007 1:48 PM, Rob, Lisa & Ryken John said........

Good advice Lee. I really liked that post!

At March 05, 2007 8:12 AM, shari said........

the best marital advice I ever received was basically that. Be the one to be the encourager. Put your energy into building up your spouse. Bite your tongues when you are wanting to be hurtful. Give to get.

Great post!!